Motherdom:Breaking Free from Bad Science and Good Mother Myths

A satisfying revolt against holier-than-thou moralizing around mothers.

Alex Bollen provides a meticulously researched critique of the evidence underpinning common parenting advice by exploring the history and science of motherhood and exposing the myths and pseudoscience that contribute to maternal anxiety and guilt across cultures. This powerful book will resonate with anyone who is navigating, or has navigated, the complexities of parenthood.

Unequivocally and emphatically, this is the book that all of us, mothers and motherhood researchers alike, have been waiting for! ...This transgressive and transformative book not only decisively and incisively takes on the oppressive institution of patriarchal motherhood to dismantle the good mother myths and bad science that underpin it, it also bequeaths to us a new and revolutionary way to live motherhood. Indeed, with her innovative and vital model of Motherdom, Alex Bollen has created for us a theory and practice of motherhood that will 'set mothers free' to realize the emancipatory potential of motherhood.

Bollen’s excellent and much-needed book brilliantly exposes the flimsy foundations of the supposedly scientific evidence underpinning much of the received wisdom about motherhood

In this passionate and persuasive book, Alex Bollen tells the story of how bad science has affected generations of mothers. This is essential reading for anyone interested in how research should – and shouldn’t – be used.'

Such a welcome contribution to the raging debates that surround contemporary parenting. Bollen takes a forensic look at the evidence used to promote particular parenting practices and shows how shaky much of the 'brain-boosting' science it rests on really is. In its place, she proposes a new way of understanding and supporting motherhood; an intersectionally informed, non-didactic appreciation of the diversity in maternal experiences, that is deeply social at heart: Motherdom.

Bollen takes on not only the traditional patriarchal views about what makes a "good mother", but also those who misuse neuroscience to give credibility to their prejudices. Many women who've been told that their interactions with their baby can dramatically help or hinder wiring of the brain will be astounded to see just how flimsy the scientific basis is for those claims. Overall, this will be a liberating read for mothers who will find Bollen's accessible and authoritative style a mine of useful information, and a counterpoint to the flood of neurobabble that pervades popular accounts of mother-child interactions.

This passionately written and impeccably evidenced book reminds us of the myriad ways in which mothers are blamed - for pretty much everything. Across generations of flimsy, bad science, configurations of the 'good mother' have been erected and culturally and politically enforced until the next preoccupation or fad comes along. This book makes a powerful intervention into this sad history and demands a contemporary reckoning, by (re)instigating the concept, language and inclusiveness of ‘motherdom’. Motherdom, as the author sets out, ‘means setting mothers free’ and freedom from judgement and guilt and especially ‘experts’ is so long overdue, it is hard to imagine. But this highly readable book, makes it feel a possibility.

A well-informed and sanity-restoring book.

A fantastically accessible debunking of myths around motherhood. An invigorating, empowering and life changing read.

A refreshing and smart voice in the never-ending "mommy wars," Alex Bollen critiques much of the mothering advice – scientific and cultural – that has produced maternal guilt, fear, and anxiety. Instead, Bollen calls us to a vision of motherdom that centers maternal freedom, and that recognizes that experiences of motherhood and practices of nurturing are varied and individual.

It is no secret that one of the least tolerable aspects of motherhood is other people’s expert advice ... [Motherdom] bravely hack[s] away at this ever-burgeoning thicket of good counsel ... explain[ing] how hoary, old, nature-versus-nurture cliches have stuck mothers in a place where they can do no right.

The specter of the Bad Mother looms over every bleary-eyed and terrified new mom. In this book, researcher and mother Alex Bollen digs into the real stories behind the nebulous studies and perceptions that shape societal notions about motherhood. She also proposes a new model of motherhood, “motherdom,” with which she aims to expand our conception of “good” child-rearing. I can think of countless people, mothers and not, in desperate need of this book.

Parenting is difficult enough without dealing with myths of what it means to be a good mother. I who often felt like a failure as a mother appreciate Bollen’s focus on a more realistic approach to parenting.